Oga: see, you’re the change that you seek. Be the change you want to see.
Me: Alright Oga, I no argue with you at all oo. In fact, I’m one of those persons that strongly believe in ‘Personal Responsibility as a beginning of an end…’
Oga: Hehehe yes, that’s very good! Just leave the government out of all these things and be the change you want to—
Me: Eeehn Oga! Leave wetin?
No! I will not leave the government out of this #change matter oo, neither I’m I holding on to them…
Maybe I would have been more relaxed with the phrase “I am the change that I seek”, individuality is very important in this game of responsibility we are trying to play; because this ” you are the change… ” reigning everywhere is becoming something else.
Oga told me “you are the change.. and I agreed, but he seemed to have forgotten he is the change too, just like the government is… (abi na only me wan be the change?)
..so the problem I have noticed is we seem to always fail to strike a balance most times. We tend to move to the extreme right or extreme left of life issues.
Let’s see these instances ~
Welcome to my world, (my world o, not only Nigeria) where the equality we celebrate and claim to gradually achieve has lumps of inequality dangling within.
This is why we still have lots of commas in the gender inequality we try to put a full stop to. Let’s try to create a balance even in the fight for equality that we seek, else, in the nearest future we would start seeing ‘fearless lions’ as daughters and ‘timid she-goats’ as sons. see this vivid example amongst others.., no doubt little girls are molested, little boys are molested too. We’ll keep moving in circles if we don’t understand the term we fight for- Equality.- A balance..
In the religious/spiritual aspect of our lives, we pray so hard that we forget to work #read #vote #all and work so hard that… Vice versa. We judge so much that we forget to love (are we even supposed to judge at all?) We carry righteousness so much to heart that we forget to remember that it is unrighteous to look down on the ‘said unrighteous’.
In our personal lives, we crave for success so much that we feel the world has come to an end when failure creeps in, forgetting that failure ‘well managed’ is just next door to true and lasting success.
We even talk so much that we perhaps forget to act.
The list goes on and on.
..so, when Oga told me “you are the change.. ..and seemed to forget he is the change too, he made matters worse by saying ” leave the government out of this.. Choi!!!
.I was surprised the other day when Abu, my friend, a petty trader on my street told me he would never return to his country (a neighboring country) because he loves Nigeria. At first everyone around laughed and thought he was joking until I realized how serious he was, as he went on.
That day I realized that #ThisIsNigeria, some other country’s America. I realized that yes, we are far below expectations, our expectations but irrespective of all, we are strong, we are Blacks, we lack nothing but what we lack. We are all that we need..
Truth be told, we have been failed countless times…
..and yes, change begins with me just like it begins with you too. If it begins with you and I, then it begins with us. Us-them- because they are part of us. So, the balance here is when everyone is involved. Like INVOLVED.
I’m in my own corner trying not just to contribute but also ‘be the change’ in anyway I can. My contributions for now may not be a floodlight to quench the darkness and much negativities around, but it’s a light, even if you may call it a candle light.
If everyone of us can lit our candles, I believe it’s enough to dissolve the this darkness into flames of brightness.
Personal responsibility is the beginning of an end to all these disturbing- this and that around us.
Yes… This Is Nigeria.. We are Nigerians… Let’s all get involved…